Summer Recap: Part 1

A photo of mammoth bones to get your attention

Holy crud, where has 2022 gone?  It's way past time for me to write about my summer.

In my current job I work nearly year-round. I do get the usual days off during the school year (1 week for Thanksgiving, 2 weeks for winter, 1 week for Spring Break, etc) but I work most of the summer. While I was at work my husband worked his butt off to spruce up the house. We now have a nice walkway from the back door. This is really helpful because the dogs were tracking in dirt and mud. He also built nice flowerbeds in the front yard and populated them with some ivy. He then added above-ground sprinklers. I am so fortunate to have such a handy partner!

My sister, P, decided to visit our parents in Arizona in June but she needed another adult to help her with her kiddos since her spouse didn't have enough PTO. She was kind enough to pay for my plane ticket and in exchange I helped take care of her two daughters. Y'all. I do not know how you parents take care of two children under the age of 5. It was fun and I have some great memories but I was always tired. And I didn't have to do as much because I'm not mom! I have learned the importance of always having snacks nearby. We had a great visit and enjoyed having "snacks in the clouds" as my niece, B, puts it.

A photo of virga in the dessert. Virga is when it's raining but the rain evaporates before it is able to hit the ground.

During the summer my parents-in-law visited for a week. It was really nice to spend time with them, my husband, my sister-in-law, and her husband. We did two escape rooms (and had the fastest time on one of them!), a ghost tour of Austin, visited the mammoth site and Dr Pepper museum in Waco, and spent a few hours boating on the local lake. I am incredibly grateful that I get along so well with my husband's side of the family.

Me at the Dr Pepper museum

Debbie Downer Warning: In late July I had a routine medical procedure that required me to be under anesthesia. I was told I would be in a "twilight state" where I would be able to respond to questions and commands (turn your head to the left, does this hurt?, etc) but that I would not remember any part of the procedure. Unfortunately this was not the case for me. Not only could I feel what the doctor was doing, to this day I remember most of it. The doctor did not make any mention of that in the official notes for the procedure. This concerns me greatly because now I fear that this will happen to me again. To add insult to injury, Patient Relations is not responding to my messages (I have called and sent an email weeks ago). All I want is for my doctor to correctly describe what happened during the procedure. I want to give-up on this because it is emotionally taxing for me to have to repeatedly remember what happened but I refuse to give-up because this can affect my future healthcare.

I hate to end on a low note but next up is Bell County Comic Con and that definitely deserves a good amount of space. So instead let's end with a teaser photo of me and my friend at BCCC:

Darth Maul and Me

-Clare G. S.

Weddings and Workouts

I once again found myself at the high school a couple of weeks ago and a friend mentioned that I haven't written here in a while. Whoops! Here's what's happening in my world.

Therapy - I haven't been back to see Dr. S since my last post because I haven't felt the need. I have good days and bad days like anyone else but I seem to be handling the bad days fairly well for the most part. I still need to build a meditation habit.

Working out - Speaking of building good habits, I've started working out regularly. The last week or two of January I started either an ab workout (about 10 minutes) or walking one mile each morning. Now I sometimes do both or walk two miles. I've tried to add in some jogging but my calves start to ache very quickly. I'm keep meaning to look into what the cause could be. I think it's the new sneakers I bought plus the constant inclines/declines in my neighborhood. Also, each Tuesday there is a group at my work that does a 30-45 minute cardio workout; usually a dance-based exercise. I do my best to join them. I'm really happy to say that after nearly three months I can see real progress!

• I can now walk up the stairs at work and not get winded.
• When I jog during my walks I now have to stop because my calves ache, not because I am out of breath.
• Side note: I was trying to breathe in through my nose and out through my mouth. I mentioned to my sister, J, that I was running out of breath. She suggested trying to breathe through my mouth the entire time if that felt more natural. That solved the problem!
• My spouse reports that I'm generally in a better mood.

I'm really trying not to focus on things like my weight and waist size but it's hard. Everywhere I look everyone is talking about losing weight and dropping inches from your waist. I know the victories I listed above are much more important since my goal is to feel better and to live a long, happy life. However, that doesn't keep diet culture from attacking. I'm glad that this year my school district is doing a step-challenge instead of a weight-loss challenge. Especially for those of us with desk jobs, it's important to keep moving and keep your body active. Also, it's nice to have a good excuse to take a short walk around the building outside and get some sunlight. I truly believe it helps me stay in a more positive mood. If I spend the entire day at my desk and only leave it for bathroom breaks, I get grumpy.

Work - Not much to report here. I still miss my friends at the high school but it's getting easier to visit the campus without being an emotional wreck afterward. We did have one adventure recently. Around 1:30pm on Thursday the internet for the entire district cut out. By Friday morning, it was restored to all campuses but not central office where I work. We finally got internet back around 3pm on Friday. I'm probably going to go in early on Monday to try to catch up on all the things I couldn't get done earlier. On the bright side, my work desk is clean and very organized!

Family - On April 2nd I successfully married my brother to his wife! My goal was to avoid crying during the ceremony since I was the officiant. I did it! Every time I felt tears coming on, I told myself, "This is not my brother. I am just in a play and I'm playing the part of the officiant at a wedding." That helped me get back to a non-weepy mindset and ensured I was speaking loudly, clearly, and at a good pace. There was a funny moment when I had to hold back laughter because out of the corner of my eye I could see their dog rolling on his back. 

Me as the officiant! I guess that blouse is now my officiant blouse.

Church - I'm so excited because our church has a new rector! We've been searching for one since about 2019 so we are all really happy to have a permanent rector again. Don't get me wrong, our interim rector was great but our congregation was ready for someone who will be here long-term. It was really interesting to be part of this process since I'm accustomed to the Roman Catholic church where priests are assigned to a parish. I learned a lot about how the Episcopal Church runs and the more I learn, the more I like it.

Another thing I've been learning about is the process for discerning the priesthood in the church. My friend, B, is currently discerning if she is called to be a priest or deacon. I am very honored to be part of the group that is guiding her during this process. We meet every 2-3 weeks for around 6 sessions. I think it's a really great process because it gives the seeker (the person who is seeking what God is calling them to do) opportunities to pray and reflect about why they feel called to this. It's obvious that the church has put a lot of thought into this process.

COVID-19 - A couple of weeks ago Austin, Tx lifted their mask mandate for government buildings. To me, that felt like the end of the pandemic. The only place where I still wear a mask is in medical buildings as they still require them. It's so odd to look back at the transitions: getting accustomed to wearing a mask in public, trying not to panic when people in crowded places refused to wear a mask, and now back to rarely seeing people wearing a mask. I have lots of thoughts on how the world should be based on what we learned during the pandemic but this post is already long enough.

Overall, things are going well in my life. I hope I didn't just jinx myself. ;)

-Clare G. S.

Music Eases All My Problems

One of these days I'll write here regularly. It will probably be when I retire.

Pets - No news is good news. The colder weather means our dogs are spending a lot of time outdoors. They can come and go from the house as they please but they really love cold weather. Fish are fishing. Birds are birding.

Family - In a couple of months I'm going to officiate my brother's wedding! This will be my second time doing this. I'm really excited to be such an integral part of their special day. Here's a photo of my first time officiating a wedding:

Therapy - Dr. S is awesome. As stated in my previous post, I was seeing him every other week. After about 5 sessions we decided to wait for the next one. I'm doing much better now and since insurance covers a specific number of sessions in a 12 month period, I don't want to "waste" any. I'm doing better about accepting my mistakes. I'm working on being more cognizant of my emotions. I don't judge them but it's really helpful sometimes to stop and say, "Wow, I'm really upset. What's upsetting me? It's probably frustration from that meeting that didn't go well. That's a valid reaction." I don't understand why this helps stable my emotions; I simply accept that it does. Meditation really helps as well but I haven't yet set a good habit with that.

Work - I feel like I'm still adjusting to my "new" job (I started last July). We have days that we are really busy and then some days that I'm searching for what to do. I'm used to having something to do nearly constantly. Our campuses are really short staffed lately which I can only assume is due to the current COVID wave. Due to federal privacy laws (HIPAA & FERPA) the campuses can't tell me why someone is out of the office but it's pretty rare for people to take two weeks off of work at the last minute for any reason other than COVID. 

Due to these shortages, I subbed a 6th grade social studies class last week for a day. It went well but it also reminded me why I left the classroom. The stress of just watching classes exhausted me. Add in lesson plans, contacting parents, meetings, grading, professional development, and a pandemic . . . I don't know how teachers get anything done nowadays. 

Yesterday I went to my old stomping grounds, the high school, to help them catch up on attendance and to help train a new employee. It was amazing to see my friends. The person I trained was friendly, listened well, and had great questions. Everyone I saw said "Clare! It's so good to see you! I miss you!". However, at the end of the day I found myself crying. It hit me how much I missed seeing these people every day. When I went home and talked to my spouse he pointed out that I had spent 9 years at that campus. I had strong relationships with a lot of people there. Seeing all of them and them being so warm and welcoming was a tough reminder that I don't have those relationships at my new job yet. When he said that it seemed so obvious. Of course I don't have those kind of relationships yet; I've only been working there for about 7 months. It helped to hear that my reaction and emotions were valid.

A few of the amazing people I miss working with

Volunteering - Unfortunately I have to be purposefully vague here. There's a group I volunteer with and we had some disagreements this week. I will avoid conflict if at all possible so even minor disagreements give me a lot of stress. Then, we got some information that just added more stress. We are in a situation where it feels like we are working so hard but our goal feels so far away.

Music - By Friday night I was feeling worn out from the week. My husband, his sister, and her husband were going to have dinner together at our place. To help me calm a little on my way home from work, I listened to my two favorite tracks from Hamilton, "Dear Theodosia" and "Burn". I was singing them as loud as I could in my car. I also decided that since I wasn't going anywhere, I needed some alcohol and rock 'n roll. Don't worry, I didn't over imbibe. The rock 'n roll of choice was of course my favorite band, The Old 97's. "Niteclub" popped in my head so that's what I listened to. It felt like a balm for my soul. It's amazing what some Southern Comfort and Old 97's will do to me. I posted a bit on social media and a friend pointed something out: even good weeks call for a little alcohol and a little rock 'n roll. I think I might have a new goal each week: at some point during the weekend, pour a strong drink and listen to at least one awesome song way too loud. There might even be some dancing in the kitchen while I bake cookies. I constantly try to think of ways to be more "furiously happy" in my life and I think this will be small step in the right direction.

-Clare G. S.